Tag Archives: encouragement

How to let go? (Abandon) ~ FMF & Blogging Through The Alphabet

I am combining two tasks this week. The word for Five Minute Friday is ABANDON and the letter for Blogging Through The Alphabet is H.

H How to let go

GO –

We were on Spring Break this week and took some time. We abandoned all that we had been doing because we were physical, mentally, and emotionally worn out. We had abandon things. We went to a different place, relaxed, visited with loved ones, did some fun things, and recovered.

But in order to do that, we had to let go – abandon – what we were already doing. That is hard sometimes. I often tell myself that we have to keep on schedule; we have to keep going. We cannot stop. We cannot abandon the job. I have been given the job of guiding my children as they grow. I cannot abandon that!!!

But I often take that – I cannot abandon my job of guiding my children – to mean that I cannot stop doing the things that we are already doing. And that? That is wrong.

I can abandon, and should, many things. When something is causing daily grief? Abandon it and replace it with something that is better. When something is causing ache? Abandon it and replace it with something that brings joy. When something is causing a rift between family or friends or, worse, God’s people? Abandon it! Quickly.

We often think of abandoning things as bad. But how do we view letting go? Not as big a deal but just as permanent. So retrain your brain here – abandon/let go of the things that prevent you from doing whatever it is you need to be doing, whether it be guiding your children, helping others, or just carrying on daily with a cheerful heart and mind.

How do we let go? With joy, knowing that we are going to be refilling that space with better things.

At Home.

Visit Heading Home for the Five Minute Friday link-up.

Join the ABC blogging group hosted by A Net In Time and Hopkins Homeschool and link up your ABC posts.

A Net In Time Schooling
My ABC Posts:
H – How to let go?
I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

When It Doesn’t Come Together

1-when-it-doesnt-come-together

Today, I am a featured guest over on the Homeschool Review Crew blog.

There are days when we struggle with educating our children, just as every teacher has rough spots, rough days, days when things just don’t work like you expect them to. That is what I want to chat with you a bit about. So, if you would, please head over to the Homeschool Review Crew blog and see what I have to say about When It Doesn’t Come Together.

At Home.

 

For Someone Else – Blogging Through the Alphabet

f-for-someone-else

I want you to think for a minute. What have you done today?

How much of it was for someone else?

If you are a parent or a friend or a co-worker, you can think of many things that you have done for someone else. And that is a wonderful thing to do.

I was very privileged to do something for someone else the other day and it ended up being a wonderful experience. You see, At Home Dad really, really enjoys the music of Sting.

He had bought the newest album that was released and found himself wondering about the tour for it. So he looked it up. And saw that there was a date in a city just an hour away. So he asked me if I would go with him.

f-for-someone-else-concert

I didn’t hesitate – I said yes. Not because I like Sting. (I don’t mind his music at all.) Not because I wanted to go to a rock concert. (I didn’t mind but not how I would first choose to spend my time.) Not because I wanted to be around several thousand other people. (I did NOT want to be around a whole bundle of people!)

I said yes because I wanted to do something for At Home Dad that would bring a smile to his face and joy to his heart. You see, I wanted to do something for someone else and that, in turn, brought joy to me. (And, I thoroughly enjoyed the concert. If you have a chance, listen to the song “The Empty Chair.” Beautiful. Touching. He is just such an artist!)

So, I ask you again – What have you done today? I hope you see how much your little things -little things like picking up that candy wrapper, folding that load of clothes, sitting and reading the child that book, chatting with a friend, stopping to say hello to someone you know in the store, smiling and wishing that store worker a good evening – I hope you see how much the little things matter. Big things are good. But little things? They add up fast.

So keep on keeping on. Keep doing those little things. And encourage your family to find little things to do, as well. It will not only bring joy to your life, it will brighten the day of someone else. So go do something.

For Someone Else.

At Home.

Join the ABC blogging group hosted by A Net In Time and Hopkins Homeschool and link up your ABC posts.

A Net In Time Schooling
My ABC Posts:
F – For Someone Else
G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

Goals for 2017

Sometimes, I find that I struggle with setting goals. I don’t want to fall short. I have found myself several times lately thinking something like “I won’t even try because I can’t do it.” This often happens when I see something that requires a lot of activity over an extended period of time.

I have found, though, that if I create a much smaller goal with a larger end point in mind, I don’t struggle as much. An example? Walk for 20-30 minutes per day. No distance required so for those days when I am hurting or exhausted, all I have to do is make the time. I don’t have to push super hard. But for those days when I am energetic and feeling good? Then I can do some running and go further and longer.

I have also found that if I write things down, I am more likely to hold myself accountable. If I tell someone I trust about a goal, they are also more likely to hold me accountable because, well, they can since they know. (Something about that knowing – if they don’t know, how can they help?!?) At Home Dad has changed his morning routine to help me meet my daily goal of walking. He did that because he knew about my goal and wanted to help me meet it.

So, with all that rambling in mind, I decided to show you my goals. I wrote them down on the printable that I had created and shared with you in my post on The End or The Beginning? Here are my 2017 Goals.goals-2017At Home.

Linking up with the Homeschool Review Crew’s discussion about goals in 2017.

Homeschool Review Crew Goals for the Year Ahead {Link Up}

Making a Change – Accountability and Responsibility Through Routine

Welcome to week 1 of the Virtual Curriculum Fair. This is my first year participating but I have always enjoyed the posts shared. For week 1, the theme is See How We Learn. The VCF is hosted by Susan @ Homeschooling Hearts & Minds. This will also serve as the Middle School Monday post for today. With the preliminary information out of the way, let’s jump in.
week-1-see-how-we-learn

Daily life.

I don’t know about you but it seems to throw me for a loop often. It seems like no matter how well things are scheduled or planned, a wrench ends up in there causing havoc.

Due to that unpredictability, I loved working without a set time schedule. It worked well for us the first couple of years. We just jumped in when we were ready each day, did our work (which was basically a checklist), and then were done. I wrote things down as we went along and kept records as needed.

Last summer, we re-evaluated it all due to struggles we were having. And we gave the girls some input on whether they wanted time blocks or lists or to be told item by item what to do. We ended up with one of each kind. That’s okay, though. It works. And it helps us deal with changes to schedules, doctors appointments, illness, the blues, or just the crazy hectic schedule we ended up with this year.

making-a-change

But really, you what made the most difference? Accountability and responsibility. We had a pretty good talk with each of the girls. In this talk we discussed the following:

  • what was expected in regards to attitude – from God and from us
  • what was expected in regards to housework – daily chores and responsibilities
  • general timeline for starting school – 9:00 each morning with their morning responsibilities taken care of
  • completing school work – each of these discussions was different because one chose a blocked time schedule, one wanted a list so she could “do the next thing”, and the other wanted to come to us for each of the items on her school list for the day; just for a note: I do have a blocked schedule written out for each of the girls just in case and to help me stay on “schedule” but they don’t have to work by it.
  • school work accountability – Miss E has a simple to make checklist that she actually checks off each day, Miss L goes through her own checklist that she completes visually, and Miss J relies on my notes in my planner

This discussion was perhaps the very best things we have done so far with homeschooling. I forget sometimes that clear expectations make it easier to actually MEET those expectations. For me and for the girls. So by us taking the time to include the girls and be clear about what we expected, it has placed more responsibility on each of them and they have become stronger because of it.

Is it perfect? Nope. We still have plenty of days where things don’t get fully done or where attitudes (mine and theirs) are less than ideal. But overall? This has been a wonderfully freeing choice and it is very simple to remind them of the plans and expectations. They then take a deep breathe, reassess, and move forward on a better path. Most of the time.

Another thing that has made a huge difference in accomplishing what we need to? Me.

Yep – I make a difference. If I am not doing well, am in a bad mood, or didn’t sleep well, it can easily affect everyone else in the family. I soooooo wish that were not true but it is. Another example of that accountability and responsibility we talked to the girls about.

So, I have tried harder to take the responsibility for setting the daily tone. Some days I do well. Other days? Well, not so much.

Still, what have I found that makes it easier for me to hold my temper, speak kindly, or have the patience necessary to teach math when no one wants to do it? I need a morning routine just as much as the girls do.

My morning routine?

  1. prayer before I get out of bed
  2. get dressed (for exercise most of the time)
  3. make my tea and drink it while reading my Bible and devotional
  4. exercise and shower
  5. get some breakfast
  6. get started on schooling/housework/daily life

This works extremely well for me most days. Some days? We still hit bumps but that is life.

Daily life.

Welcome to our imperfect life where we love each other fiercely (sometimes more loudly than others), love God more, and work together to learn and grow and become the women God created each of us to be. All this with the help of the lone male around our house, At Home Dad. Come on in and enjoy life with us.

At Home.

vcf-banner-for-month

The following VCF participants have written their take on the theme of See How We Learn. Next week we will be addressing the theme of Playing With Words: the Language Arts. Until then, please take some time to go visit the blogs of these homeschoolers.

I invite you to see how my fellow bloggers learn in their homeschools (note: all posts will be live by noon EST, Jan. 2nd):

The Evolution of Our Homeschool by Susan @ Homeschooling Hearts & Minds

Us-School Because We Are Us, Not Someone Else by Laura @ Four Little Penguins

It’s All About the School by Michele @ Family, Faith and Fridays

Setting the Stage- the 2017 Virtual Curriculum Fair! by Lisa N. @ Golden Grasses

New Year, New Goals, New School! by Amanda H @ Hopkins Homeschool

Homeschooling – A Glimpse into How We Do it by Joelle @ Homeschooling for His Glory

Spotlight on How We Learn in Our Homeschool by Laura @ Day by Day in Our World

Our Unique Eclectic Homeschool  by Jennifer @ A Glimpse of Our Life

How We Learn on the Go by Jacquelin @ A Stable Beginning

Home Education – 10 Ways We Make It Work by Lizzy @ Peaches At Home

Schedules, where would I be without them? by Kim @ Good Sweet Love

Education at Our House by Shecki @ Greatly Blessed

Starting the Day Well by Sarah @ Delivering Grace

Making a Change – Accountability and Responsibility Through Routine by Lori H @ At Home: where life happens

A time to be encouraged is coming.. the Virtual Curriculum Fair by Annette @ A Net in Time

Loving the Moment! by Jen K @ A Peace of Mind

Keeping Our Homeschool Organized by Christy @ Unexpected Homeschool

Homeschool Goal Setting – Looking Forward, Looking Back by Kristen @ Sunrise to Sunset

How We Choose Curriculum by Brittney @ Mom’s Heart

This Is How We Homeschool by Kym @ Homeschool Coffee Break

How we don’t learn in our homeschool & how I don’t plan {2017 Virtual Homeschool Curriculum Fair} by Meghan @ Quiet in the Chaos

Learning Our Way by Lisa @ McClanahan 7

Limping Along: Our Semi-Eclectic Approach to Homeschooling by Debra @Footprints in the Butter

2017 Virtual Curriculum Fair: See How We Learn by Dana L @ Luv’N Lambert Life

And even more ideas can be found by clicking through for the Linkup!

An InLinkz Link-up

The End or the Beginning?

printable-pages-for-2016-and-2017

An end and a beginning. Which do you see?

As the end of 2016 very quickly approaches, I see just that. An end. Finality. The finish line. But is it really? No. So, I find myself wondering.

– what did we do right?
– what did we succeed in?
– what did we make better?
– where did we grow?
– where do we need to do better?
– where do changes need to be made?
– where did we fall down?
– where did we fail?

The end of the year is a natural time for reflection and re-evaluation. But, did you notice that all of these statements have a “we” in them? There is a reason for that. I think of our family as a unit. We are a family and we look to help each other.

Still, what I do well affects others. What I fail at also affects them. So we are moving through this journey together. And when I evaluate and do better at my part in these things, I make our family stronger.

The end is clearly marked by the calendar but what if we took a new approach and looked at it solely as the beginning? This is my beginning. I am beginning a new set of goals. I am beginning a new year. A new outlook. An ending is often a sad time but beginnings are seen as opportunity. So take this new beginning as an opportunity for whatever it is you desire. And write those goals, or desires, down.

I tend to be very visual so I created these two little worksheets to help me think through the good, the bad, the ugly and to plan for where I can do better. I am going to post these in my notebook that I am beginning for Bible time/prayer time so that I see them often through the year and hopefully, it will help me. Remind me. Get me back on track when I wander. And help keep me accountable.

2016 In Review

2017 Goals

I am also tying the 2017 goals into my “one word” for the year – CRAVE. I will share more on that word next week, as I am still trying to work through all the ways I want to apply this in the next year.

Please print these and use them as you can see them benefitting you and your students or family. Please share, as well. All I ask is for you to link back to this page if you share them. Thank you!

At Home.

the-homeschool-review-crew-reflect-on-2016

Linking this post up with the Homeschool Review Crew bloggers’ Reflecting on 2016 linkup.

 

Heavenly Sunlight – hymn

heavenly-sunlight

When you walk, do you prefer the sunshine? I sure do. I enjoy walking when it is sunny, a comfy temperature, and the skies are blue. That sunlight just warms my heart and makes the walk enjoyable.

Well, apply that same principle to our time here on this earth. The sunlight from heaven makes our earthly walk enjoyable. If you are walking in the light that God provides (walking in the light as He is in the light), our time here on this earth is so much easier, so much more joyful.

So, today, I hope you are walking in Heavenly Sunlight.

At Home.

 

Heavenly Sunlight

words: H.J. Zelley (1899)
music: G.H. Cook (1899)

1 Walking in sunlight, all of my journey;
Over the mountain, thru the deep vale;
Jesus has said “I’ll never forsake thee,”
Promise divine that never can fail. refrain

Refrain:
Heavenly sunlight, heavenly sunlight,
Flooding my soul with glory divine;
Hallelujah! I am rejoicing!
Singing His praises, Jesus is mine.

2 Shadows around me, shadows above me,
Never conceal my Savior and Guide;
He is the light, in Him is no darkness,
Ever I’m walking close to His side. refrain

3 In the bright sunlight, ever rejoicing,
Pressing my way to mansions above;
Singing His praises, gladly I’m walking,
Walking in sunlight, sunlight of love. refrain

%d bloggers like this: