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7 Critical Life Skills Checklists ~ Not Back to School Blog Hop

7 Critical Life Skills Checklists

I have tossed around in my mind over and over and over whether to do yet another checklist or just share some that I have come across. A round-up of ideas will allow you to see what others may consider important and then perhaps make your own or print off something someone else has done, right? Why reinvent the wheel? At the same time, as all homeschoolers know, every child is different and perhaps they each need their own checklist. So, what to do?

three checklists for life skills

First, I’ll share a list of some very specific ideas that I think a teen should know before leaving home, whether to go off to school, a job, or even staying at home while doing either of those. As an adult, they need to know some things.

  1. Finances: Do they know how to budget and manage money? Can they choose a bank and open a checking account? Can they get a credit card and know how to manage it, finding good rates and a reliable company? Do they know the difference between a credit card and a debit card, and when or how to use each?
  2. Automobile: Do they know how to get gas? Wash the windshield? Check the oil? Check the tire pressure? Change a tire? Add fluids when needed? Change the oil or when to have someone change it? How to address regular maintenance? If you live in a big city, do they know how to use public transportation?
  3. Apartment/House: Do they know how to clean? Dust, laundry, bathrooms, vacuum, sweet, mop? Do they know basic maintenance and care?
  4. Finances #2: Do they know how to apply for a loan, when needed? An apartment? Utilities? (This is one of the main reasons for a credit card and knowing how to manage it! You have to have a credit history for these.) How to avoid debt or use debt in wise ways, such as a mortgage? How to handle debt if you find yourself there?
  5. Food Management: Do they know how to cook? Clean up? Bake? Clean up? Make a menu? Make a grocery list? Grocery shop? Store food? Budget food?
  6. Time Management: Do they know how to take care of the things that need done? Can they schedule things? Can they keep track of important dates? Can they manage a long-term project? Can they make appointments?
  7. People: Can they talk to others in a meaningful way? Can they interview? Can they make a phone call? Can they schedule appointments? Can they order food at a restaurant or parts for the refrigerator at the store? Do they know how to communicate clearly? Can they look people in the eye? Can they stand up for themselves in a clear but kind way?

four checklists for life skills

This is far from everything a child needs to know but these are areas that you can look around and see the impact of failures. Don’t know how to handle money? Debt is crippling so many in our society. Don’t know how to speak with others? Many can’t hold jobs because their people skills are lacking. Don’t know how to manage their time? Impacts ability to complete tasks, hold jobs, finish a degree and much more. These are biggies.

But it is a far cry from everything out there. Take a look at some things that are floating around out there:

40 Old-Fashioned Skills That Kids Need to Know Today from Peace Creek on the Prairie

How To Teach Kids Life Skills from Boston Mamas

Top 5 Life Skills for Resumes, Cover Letters, and Interviews from The Balance Careers

45 Essential Life Skills Everyone Should Learn from Living Well Spending Less

An Age-By-Age Guide to Teaching Life Skills from Family Education

These are just a few that I found interesting. Whether you decided to call it life skills training or Real Life University or something else all together, life skills will impact your children. So, I encourage you to be intentional as they grow and learn.

Blessings,
Lori, At Home.

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Visit the Homeschool Review Crew to read about the ideas, tips, and encouragement you will find from all the other bloggers who are participating in this week’s NOT Back to School Blog Hop. Below are some links to their blogs but if you want their post from today, click on the image above to get the link up for today.

CREW @ Homeschool Review Crew – 2019 Annual Not Back to School Homeschool Blog Hop

Chareen @ Every Bed of Roses – ABC of Homeschooling

Dawn @ Schoolin’ Swag – Adding Fun to Your Homeschool Day

Erin @ For Him and My Family – Large Family Homeschooling

Lori @ At Home Where Life Happens – Learning Life Skills

Monique @ Mountain of Grace Homeschooling – Homeschooling the High School Years

Monique D. @ Early Learning Mom – Homeschooling With Autism

Yvie @ Homeschool On the Range – 5 Days of Upper Grades Homeschooling

Abby @ Making Room 4 One More – Time Management for Homeschool Moms

Amanda @ Hopkins Homeschool – 5 Days of Homeschool Questions

Amy @ the WRITE Balance – Year-Round Schooling

Annette @ A Net in Time – Homeschooling.

Betty @ Lets Get Real – Homeschooling High School

Cassandra @ My Blessed Mess – Eclectic Homeschooling

Kimberley @ Vintage Blue Suitcase – Roadschooling with a Teenager

Yvonne @ The Life We Build – 5 Days of Relaxed Homeschooling

Destiny @ Some Call It Destiny – Encouragement for the Homeschooling Mom

Karen @ Tots and Me…Growing Up Together –  A Peek into Our Homeschool

Cassie D @ Deputie Tribe – Homeschooling 6 Taking Care of YOU

Kristen Heider @ A Mom’s Quest to Teach Theme: A Quest for a Great Homeschool Year

Patti Pierce – Truth and Grace Homeschool Academy – My Favorite Homeschooling Things

Wendy @ Life on Chickadee Lane – 5 Days of Nature Study

Jacquelin @ A Stable Beginning – Homeschooling my final 4 

Christine @ Life’s Special Necessities – Yes! You Can Homeschool Your Special Needs Child

Sally M – Tell the Next Generation – Tips for Homeschooling Struggling Learners

Kim @ Good Sweet LoveLast Year of Elementary

More for Mom ~ a book review

More For Moms

This week has been full, in such a good way. From the being able to attend Teach Them Diligently to things our family is immersed in, life is full and it is lovely. That is just what this book is about though, living your whole life in a holy way that is pleasing to God and brings life to you. What a lovely idea.

The title of the book, More for Mom: Living Your Whole and Holy Life, really says what the author, Kristin Funston, wants you to see in your life – something that is holy and whole. A life wholly dedicated to being the holy being God created you to be.

As an adult with a family (yes, the book is written to moms but dads fit this too and could use the encouragement), there is much going on in our lives. For us, it is all chosen carefully in ways that will help us use the gifts God has granted each of us, even down to the 10 year old. We all have things to do that please God and we need to be aware of that.

BUT –

If we are neglecting God and His word and will through all of the using of the talents, abilities, and gifts He gives us, we have missed the boat, y’all. That is what Kristin is trying to get us to see. No matter what we do, if God isn’t first in it, there is no real purpose in it.

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The book has 210 pages, broken into three parts and 10 chapters. Part 1 is the Whole and Holy Mom. Kristin looks at all of life here, the things that push and pull us and what God’s will and way is. We crave God in our lives and when we search for things to fill that craving that aren’t God, our lives are not whole.

Part 2 is Living This Mom Life. These five chapters talks about the way we live our day to day lives, what we see or don’t see, what we do, how we interact, and wear ourselves down. But in all of it, there is the redeeming factor of God.

Part 3 is titled More for Mom. This is where the true meat of the book is and where it got really challenging for me. Life is full and it is good. But can I find ways to do more? Wait, you say – more? Yes and that is what Kristin is challenging us to – asking God to give us MORE – more peace, more joy, more hope. We have to find MORE time to do what God asks us to and He will give us MORE. The challenge in this for me was that I can easily look at my life and say “but I am already . . .” I am ready to say I am doing enough. I feel whole and holy.

That is where the problem is though – I should not stop when I fell whole and holy. I need to ask God to give me more – more empathy, more understanding, more patience, more hope, more joy, MORE. And there are three ways that Kristin talks about doing that.

  • More Time – I need to spend more time in God’s presence: in His word, in prayer, in focus. Prioritizing time with God is a needed and necessary thing. Just because I already am doing this doesn’t mean I should call it good. I need to do more. And there was great encouragement to do so here.
  • More Fasting – I have never quite understood this idea of fasting but Kristin’s chapter here has me desiring to study it more. I have never thought of it as a way to see MORE of God but it is an example Jesus gives us that I am going to study more. Fasting is often thought of as a food thing but Kristin reminds us that a fast can include many other things that you need to eliminate that take you away from focusing on God. Her idea of taking apps off of your phone if you tend to spend too much time there or of taking a different route when you are driving if you tend to stop off somewhere for a snack or drink or spending money are genius for removing distractions that lead us away from God. As I mentioned, more time will be spent on this idea.
  • More Life – “Life is Who we allow to complete it, and our body is Who we allow to fill it.” This really resonated with me because it encapsulates the idea of this entire book – God should be the focus of every part of our life because life is not small sections that are separated from one another. It is a whole life, filled by a whole God, to serve Him in a holy way. And we need to live it that way. God completes our life when we allow Him to fill it up with Himself.

This is a really encouraging book to read that helps me see His way more clearly. It is easy to get complacent and say “But I’m doing (fill in the blank).” I may have some fabulous habits in place that help me spend time with God. But if I step back and allow those habits to hold me up, I am not serving the living God who wants to be active in my life. More for Moms helps me see that I get more when I ask for more. It isn’t about more from the world but about more from The One who I serve.

May you be blessed as you seek to live your whole and holy life.

Blessings,
Lori, At Home.

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From the publisher: 

Reset your spiritual and emotional health with these steps.

More for Mom will encourage women to stop believing the lie that more is needed from them, and start living with the truth that more is available for them.

With real-life talk, humor and convicting biblical truths, Kristin Funston helps hard working mamas to look at each day and each facet of their life to discover what happens when they believe God has more for them than what they think the world needs from them.

And what He has available is a whole and holy life, just waiting to be claimed–a salvation and day-to-day reality complete just as it is. The pieces of each mom’s life–the work life, mom life, social life, etc.–are mended together through Christ to complete her one whole life, set apart because of Him.

This book is a stepping stone to help working mothers reset their spiritual and emotional health, habits, and relationship with God. There are performance pressures at work, home, and mind-sets that affect a mom’s ability to feel complete and live more closely aligned with God. This book includes the beginning steps for moms to walk in wholeness and holiness by asking God for more.

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Kristin Funston resides outside of Memphis with her husband and three daughters. She has a master’s degree in Communication Studies from New Mexico State University. Kristin has a passion for writing and wants to encourage women in a way that is relatable and practical with a large side of humor. She is a member of Hope Presbyterian Church, a congregation with a weekly attendance of more than 7,000, and serves as the Marriage & Family Coordinator. She contributes to multiple blogs.

https://kristinfunston.com/

Cultivating An Attitude

cultivating an attitude

So often we talk of cultivating a garden. Have you ever intentionally and with purpose cultivated an attitude? I am working on a plan for this year that will cultivate an attitude of appreciation. Or gratitude. Or gratefulness.

I chose the word cultivate because I want to be intentional about this. I don’t want it to be haphazard. I don’t want it to be something I think about once in a while. I want it to be something I try hard to do each day. Cultivate implies that you are conscientious about what is being done and working hard at it. When you cultivate something, it flourishes, grows, and becomes something that benefits everything around it.

So, I want to cultivate an attitude.

The attitude I want to cultivate is one that can have so many names – gratitude, thankfulness, appreciation, gratefulness. There are probably more. These are the ones that came to mind while I was writing this.

A sermon I was blessed by at the beginning of the year mentioned a 1902 essay by William George Jordan. He wrote “Ingratitude is a crime more despicable than revenge, which is only returning evil for evil, while ingratitude returns evil for good.” This is in an essay titled “The Power of Truth: Individual Problems and Possibilities.” You can find it through The Project Gutenberg.

The first part of my plan is to read this essay fully. I am also going to listen to some podcasts based on this essay. This quote struck me. It is so easy to think that I am not harming anyone when I don’t show appreciation or gratefulness but really, I am discounting what that person has done for me. When I do not intentionally show gratefulness, it is hurtful, even when I don’t intend for it to be so. And when I show gratefulness that someone is not expecting, that blesses the person doubly. Why wouldn’t I want that to be what happens daily?

The next part includes writing out passages from the Bible each day this year. I am starting in the beginning of Psalm for now but I do expect that will change after a bit. I have a goal of six verses a day.

I was blessed by a basket from the blog The Sparrow’s Home. I am going to use the note cards, pens, and pretty basket as a place to keep my materials so that I can write more notes of thanks this year. I have a goal of four a month, or one per week.

The final part of this cultivation, for now, is that I am going to be praying specific prayers of thanks. I am going to find something in particular each day for the purpose of giving thanks.

My hope is that I will see more of the good in everything. I also hope it will rub off some on those around me. But really, I hope it changes my heart in ways I cannot imagine.

So this is my “word” for the year. I am cultivating an attitude of gratitude.

Blessings,
Lori, At Home.

 

Linking up with the Homeschool Review Crew and their Word for the Year Ahead link-up.

Your Second Life Begins When You Realize You Only Have One ~ Book Club

You Second Life

This is a compelling little book that was handed to me by my MIL the other day. She just said “Do you want to read this? It looks neat but it is way down in my pile and I can’t read it yet.” So I did. It grabbed me from the beginning and I was riveted.

Your Second Life Begins When You Realize You Only Have One

Written by Raphaelle Giordano, this book has been translated into English. I believe it was originally written in French. It does take place in Paris, I believe. (I am guessing a little but the places mentioned all seem to fit Paris.)

We meet Camille at the beginning of the book and are quickly introduced to her hectic, busy, unfulfilling, unhappy/happy life. She is married to one she loves and has a little boy. They have a good place to live and she has a solid job. But she is feeling out-of-sorts, discontented, and unhappy. Which doesn’t make sense to her with such a “good” life. On the day we meet her, she has an accident with her tire and ends up in the middle of nowhere knocking on a stranger’s door. And with all that has happened, she ends up pouring out her story and discontent to him.

And he responds incredibly – I can help.

He listens and offers her his card. From there, he tells her that he understands (sometimes that is the most powerful part, isn’t it?) and that she can change her life. She is intrigued and contact him for help after she gets back to the city. What she finds is someone who wants her to success, to have a “happy” life, and a listening ear. She also finds significant encouragement and unusual tactics that help her focus, change, and redirect her thoughts and her life.

By the end of the story, we find a new Camille – happier, directed, focused, healthy, and energetic. She knows who she is and what she wants.

So many of the ideas and life changes are things that the reader can relate to. They can be addressed and changed in the reader’s life, as well. I find that fascinating. Yes, this is a novel but there is much to be learned from the approaches and the ideas in this book. If you are feeling rooted in discontent and want to find a way to redirect your life, pick this book up and give it a read. The ideas just might help you challenge your status quo and become someone you really admire and want to be. You just might end up following your dream.

Blessings,
At Home.

Visit Ladybug Daydreams, if you have a moment. I don’t know if Wendy is able to post for the Book Club this month or not but I’d love it if you would visit her blog for a moment or two.

Book club:Ladybug Daydrams and At Home where life happens

Love Grows Here – Keep Out!

Love Grows Here Keep Out

I have started walking. Again. We’ll see. . .

Anyhow, on my walking route I pass this lovely garden area next to someone’s front door. I mean it is lovely. Lots of flowering plants (even in this triple digit heat we have had for weeks now) and large green leaves. It is well maintained and cared for. You can tell.

But –

Planted in the very front, for all the passersby to see, are two signs. One is so pretty and in colorful cursive says “Love grows here.” What a neat sentiment. Inviting. Hopeful. Maybe even inspiring. Until you look next to it.

And you see

KEEP OUT!

Black and orange. Bright, glaring, ugly. “You are not wanted,” it says. “You are not welcome.” In spite of what is right next to it about love, this is the message that is most boldly proclaimed.

And it made me wonder. . .

Which of these two signs does my life portray? And I boldly proclaiming that no one is welcome in my life?

Or am I saying I am trying hard to grow love and would like to share it?

Which is the sign your life is proclaiming?

Blessings,
At Home.

Stylish Hair Accessories That Hold – a review of Lilla Rose

Flexi Clips from Lilla Rose

If you are anything like me, you have quit spending anything on hair accessories, no matter how cute they are, because they just don’t hold in your hair. It is so frustrating to find a clip or a barrette or a comb and purchase it, just to find the first time you place it in your hair it slips right down. Or worse – it slips off and you lose it.

Lilla Rose Flexi Clips have changed all that for me. Not only are there tons of adorable styles to choose from, they actually hold my hair. Some styles still slip but it is easy to put a small band underneath the clip to hold it in place. And I get to use the cute clips! I recently received Hibiscus Sea and Morning Joy for the purpose of this review and boy, do I like them! They have both gotten lots of use already!

My favorite size is honestly the XL, especially with summer here. Okay – it might only be May but the heat is starting to hit and I am wearing my hair up a lot now. But these XL Flexi Clips allow me to quickly pull my hair up into a bun. No fuss, no muss. I can truly have my hair done in under a minute. Just twist it up to a bun and place the clip over the top of it.

bun with Morning Joy flexi clip

It is neat. The clips adds color and interest and, yes, even cuteness. It stays put. And I don’t have to mess with it. On days like today, when we were out in the heat and the wind, hair stayed put and still looked decent when we came in an hour and a half later.braid held with Hibiscus Sea flexi clip

I have at least one clip of each size and I do like them all. My daughters all have at least one clip each, as well. They do a fantastic job of making hair pretty and holding it in place.

Miss J using Hibiscus Sea flexi Clip

Not sure what size is right for you? You can ask Jennifer (the post sponsor) by contacting her at http://www.lillarose.biz/prettyhair/ (there is a banner in the middle of the page with Jennifer’s picture on it; click that and there is a way to email her) or visit Lilla Rose to see the style videos and suggestions they have. While looking for the videos, check out all the varieties of Flexi Clips they have. There are new ones all the time. Colors on Parade flexi clip

And if these are not your style, they also have hair bands (which are lovely and stay put, too – I have one that I enjoy wearing), bobbi pins (which my girls love to decorate their hair with after they pull it up in a ponytail), U pins, and more.

If you haven’t tried Lilla Rose, I highly recommend giving this company a try. Jennifer is a wonderful consultant (I’ve known her from the blogging world for a few years) and will answer any questions you have.

Contact Pretty Hair (a Lilla Rose consultant) through the Lilla Rose website – http://www.lillarose.biz/prettyhair/ – or through Facebook.

At Home.

This post was sponsored by Lilla Rose consultant Jennifer (*******). I received two free clips in exchange for my honest review. I was not required to write a positive review nor was I compensated in any other way. All opinions expressed are my own or those of my family. I am disclosing this in accordance with FTC regulations.

 

Goals for 2017

Sometimes, I find that I struggle with setting goals. I don’t want to fall short. I have found myself several times lately thinking something like “I won’t even try because I can’t do it.” This often happens when I see something that requires a lot of activity over an extended period of time.

I have found, though, that if I create a much smaller goal with a larger end point in mind, I don’t struggle as much. An example? Walk for 20-30 minutes per day. No distance required so for those days when I am hurting or exhausted, all I have to do is make the time. I don’t have to push super hard. But for those days when I am energetic and feeling good? Then I can do some running and go further and longer.

I have also found that if I write things down, I am more likely to hold myself accountable. If I tell someone I trust about a goal, they are also more likely to hold me accountable because, well, they can since they know. (Something about that knowing – if they don’t know, how can they help?!?) At Home Dad has changed his morning routine to help me meet my daily goal of walking. He did that because he knew about my goal and wanted to help me meet it.

So, with all that rambling in mind, I decided to show you my goals. I wrote them down on the printable that I had created and shared with you in my post on The End or The Beginning? Here are my 2017 Goals.goals-2017At Home.

Linking up with the Homeschool Review Crew’s discussion about goals in 2017.

Homeschool Review Crew Goals for the Year Ahead {Link Up}

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